You’ve been searching for solutions to end your binge eating.
Looking for the thing that’ll make it stop for good.
You’re tired of spending every other night in the kitchen, standing amongst candy wrappers, empty jars of peanut butter scraped to the bottom, and the leftovers you swore you’d save for tomorrow’s lunch, wondering “How the hell can I keep doing this?”
Maybe you’ve even done a google search (or 7) to find some kind of “ingredient” to make it all go away.
Well, I’ve got one for you. And it’s not another spoonful of raw coconut oil after your meal to suppress cravings (gag).
Binges happen for a lot of different reasons, but one of the main ones is to fill us up when life is not fulfilling. In fact, our binges are always there to tell us that something isn’t quite right. We feel empty, so we stuff ourselves with food. We feel hurt and loss and lack, so we binge to focus on the pain and shame of overeating instead of on the emotions that feel too overwhelming to bear.
Ignoring our hurt leads us to feeling empty and purposeless, because there’s always some underlying something that keeps us from feeling 100%. We’re constantly wandering around trying to feel good but ultimately feeling unsatisfied.
Food is intensely satisfying. We crave it, it awakens our senses, and we consume it. It becomes a part of us. Perfect equation for anyone who’s feeling a serious sense of lack, isn’t it?
I’m not saying food shouldn’t be this satisfying and exciting - it should be! The issue is when eating is the most exciting part of our day, the main thing we turn to for happiness, thrill, or comfort. Eating should be something that adds joy to our lives, something we can relish in and enjoy sensually as often as possible. Not something used to cover up our hurt every single day (though there’s nothing wrong with eating emotionally here and there - we’re emotional beings and we all do it!).
So where does purpose come in? When we live inside our purpose, we don’t need (or even want) to feel grossly stuffed with food. Living in your purpose does not mean you don’t have setbacks or emotional pain - it means you live through those things. You experience them deeply because they are part of being a human. You don’t fear what’s going on inside your head, but rather embrace it and work through it so you can get to the root of why you’re aching. ...And then get back to being the badass goddess that you are.
You might be reading this and thinking, “Okay this all sounds great but what the HELL is MY purpose??”
Can’t answer that one for you, babe. But you definitely know how to figure it out, promise.
Our intuition leads us to our purpose, if we learn to listen. Disordered eaters spend a lot of time blocking out their intuition in order to push themselves past exhaustion at the gym, eat off a certain list of foods instead of what their body actually calls for, or eat way past the point of fullness on a regular basis by ignoring all cues telling them to stop.
But intuition tells us a lot more than just how or what to eat. Sometimes certain situations give us a bad feeling that we can’t explain. Certain people don’t make us feel good whenever we talk to them. Other times, we feel completely lit up from the inside after a good chat with a girlfriend. Or during a positive experience, it feels like our bodies are humming.
My advice if you’re seeking out your purpose? Listen to your body and mind whenever you feel like you’re lit up or humming, and do more of it. Ditch the stuff that makes you feel crappy or closed off. Soon, the only voice you’ll be hearing inside yourself will be your intuitive one, and you’ll be naturally drawn towards that which serves your highest self.
The point isn’t so much to “arrive” somewhere in life and suddenly the binges stop. But the more we listen to what our souls crave, the less need there is to stuff ourselves in order to cover up the hurt. We start falling in love with the life that we’ve made for ourselves, and eventually...We don’t want to do anything that we know would be painful emotionally or physically, like binge eating.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Do you binge eat more often on days when you feel ‘off’? What can you do instead to work through those tough feelings? Do you feel less drawn towards food on days when you feel happy and lit up? How can you cultivate more of that feeling in your life?