The other week, I went with a friend to a Japanese bath house. If you’ve never been to one before, it looks a lot like a spa, with massage rooms and soft music and lavender scented everything. But the main space is the communal bath area.
My morning routine used to go a little something like this: I’d wake up, saunter over to the mirror and immediately lift up my shirt to begin my “morning ab check”. I’d look for signs of progress or regression in my quest to become the fit, healthy girl that I was posing to the outside world so well.
Let’s talk about weight.
Ya know, that number that indicates your gravitational push on the mass of the earth. The one that so many women spend their lives trying to change, only to be disappointed to find that no matter how minimal their impact on the mass of the earth, their lives remain the same. The same issues in their lives still exist, because becoming smaller never made anyone happier on the inside.
Disliking your body is exhausting. Spending time pinching and wincing at your muffin top, disciplined calculating of calories in versus calories out, mapping the perfect workout, and using the mental energy it takes to stop at every mirror and do a body check to confirm whether or not you’re allowed to like yourself that day… It’s draining just writing about it.
If you’re in the diet-binge cycle, you’ve got trigger foods.
You know what I mean… the one (or two, or fifty) foods that just make you feel totally cray-cray. The ones that you sweaaarrrr are calling your name from the kitchen cabinets. The betcha-can’t-have-just-one foods. The ones that you feel so crazy about that you eat them specifically just for binges.
This blog post is partially recycled from a previous mini-course that I ran earlier this year called “Embrace Your Bod”. One focus of that program was how to transform negative body talk.
I wanted to bring this back around because SO many women are struggling with speaking kindly to their body, especially at the beginning of the intuitive eating journey.
I’m gonna get extra real with you today.
I recently read this article by Mel Wells, fellow diet-ditcher and body love advocate, titled “How to Stop Hating Every Photo of Yourself”. Mel bravely put 6 seemingly ‘perfect’ photos of herself on her blog and dissected them- telling us how her ‘perfectly’ slim body and flawless makeup didn’t accurately reflect what was going on inside her mind and life.
This article was raw. And it hit home for me.
You’ve been searching for solutions to end your binge eating.
Looking for the thing that’ll make it stop for good.
You’re tired of spending every other night in the kitchen, standing amongst candy wrappers, empty jars of peanut butter scraped to the bottom, and the leftovers you swore you’d save for tomorrow’s lunch, wondering “How the hell can I keep doing this?”
Sugar is the latest evil in the nutrition world.
I say “latest” because I do believe, like all nutrition facts, that the sugar-free craze will eventually blow over. I do not doubt that sugar wreaks havoc on our systems when consumed in excess- though the point of “excess” is totally different for each person.
People have lots of objections towards the idea of abandoning food rules. It’s hard for most people, especially the experienced dieter, food restrictor, or binge eater. The #1 grievance I hear is this:
“But...but...what about HEALTH?!”
Ah, health, yes. The thing we’re all so very deeply concerned about recently. After all, healthy is the new skinny, right?
Food is no longer just food, is it?
Food is calories, fat grams, sugar grams, complete proteins or protein combinations, seasonal or off-season, paleo-friendly, clean, dirty…
You get it.
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Let’s talk about dieting, shall we?
You’ve already heard me rant about how diet culture is everywhere, and how we are being trapped, as a society (and especially as women), to believe that there is something wrong with our bodies and that they need to be changed; our bodies are problems that need to be fixed...