The other week, I went with a friend to a Japanese bath house. If you’ve never been to one before, it looks a lot like a spa, with massage rooms and soft music and lavender scented everything. But the main space is the communal bath area.
My morning routine used to go a little something like this: I’d wake up, saunter over to the mirror and immediately lift up my shirt to begin my “morning ab check”. I’d look for signs of progress or regression in my quest to become the fit, healthy girl that I was posing to the outside world so well.
Disliking your body is exhausting. Spending time pinching and wincing at your muffin top, disciplined calculating of calories in versus calories out, mapping the perfect workout, and using the mental energy it takes to stop at every mirror and do a body check to confirm whether or not you’re allowed to like yourself that day… It’s draining just writing about it.
This blog post is partially recycled from a previous mini-course that I ran earlier this year called “Embrace Your Bod”. One focus of that program was how to transform negative body talk.
I wanted to bring this back around because SO many women are struggling with speaking kindly to their body, especially at the beginning of the intuitive eating journey.
There’s a lot of information out there on nutrition. Endless amounts. Some say meat is toxic and unnecessary, others say that red meat is nutritious. Gluten is either poison or harmless. Eating fruit raises your blood sugar too much and makes fat burning impossible, but it’s also packed with vital bio-nutrients.
WHO’S RIGHT? What should I eat?!
Here’s the truth, babe...ready?
People have lots of objections towards the idea of abandoning food rules. It’s hard for most people, especially the experienced dieter, food restrictor, or binge eater. The #1 grievance I hear is this:
“But...but...what about HEALTH?!”
Ah, health, yes. The thing we’re all so very deeply concerned about recently. After all, healthy is the new skinny, right?
So much of recovering from disordered eating habits (like emotional eating, food restriction, chronic dieting, exercise addiction, etc.) has to do with the eating itself. For instance, I had to re-learn how to listen to my body for hunger cues, eating when I was hungry and stopping once I was full...
Let’s talk about dieting, shall we?
You’ve already heard me rant about how diet culture is everywhere, and how we are being trapped, as a society (and especially as women), to believe that there is something wrong with our bodies and that they need to be changed; our bodies are problems that need to be fixed...
Diet culture is exhausting.
Look at the cover of any women’s magazine. Really – ANY women’s magazine. I guarantee that you’ll find something along the lines of…
“Lose the last 10 pounds!”
“Flatten your tummy in just 2 weeks!”
“Tricks to make your legs look longer”
…I’m cringing just writing them. How stressful is it to always be bombarded by messages in the media that we need to change the way we look?