The other week, I went with a friend to a Japanese bath house. If you’ve never been to one before, it looks a lot like a spa, with massage rooms and soft music and lavender scented everything. But the main space is the communal bath area.
My morning routine used to go a little something like this: I’d wake up, saunter over to the mirror and immediately lift up my shirt to begin my “morning ab check”. I’d look for signs of progress or regression in my quest to become the fit, healthy girl that I was posing to the outside world so well.
Disliking your body is exhausting. Spending time pinching and wincing at your muffin top, disciplined calculating of calories in versus calories out, mapping the perfect workout, and using the mental energy it takes to stop at every mirror and do a body check to confirm whether or not you’re allowed to like yourself that day… It’s draining just writing about it.
This blog post is partially recycled from a previous mini-course that I ran earlier this year called “Embrace Your Bod”. One focus of that program was how to transform negative body talk.
I wanted to bring this back around because SO many women are struggling with speaking kindly to their body, especially at the beginning of the intuitive eating journey.
Do you feel like you're overly focused on weight loss?
This is the #1 most common thing I hear from the women that I speak with. They're on board with the idea of eating intuitively, they want to stop criticizing their bodies....but they just can't let go of the desire to lose or maintain a certain weight.
A lot of the women that I talk to tell me that they feel totally out of control around food (or fear becoming out of control around food). Oh man, have I been there.
I used to feel serious panic around food at basically all times.
"I can't go to that party. I know there will be food everywhere. What if I overeat on chips and brownies? And in front of everyone there?!"
You’ve been searching for solutions to end your binge eating.
Looking for the thing that’ll make it stop for good.
You’re tired of spending every other night in the kitchen, standing amongst candy wrappers, empty jars of peanut butter scraped to the bottom, and the leftovers you swore you’d save for tomorrow’s lunch, wondering “How the hell can I keep doing this?”
Sugar is the latest evil in the nutrition world.
I say “latest” because I do believe, like all nutrition facts, that the sugar-free craze will eventually blow over. I do not doubt that sugar wreaks havoc on our systems when consumed in excess- though the point of “excess” is totally different for each person.
There’s a lot of information out there on nutrition. Endless amounts. Some say meat is toxic and unnecessary, others say that red meat is nutritious. Gluten is either poison or harmless. Eating fruit raises your blood sugar too much and makes fat burning impossible, but it’s also packed with vital bio-nutrients.
WHO’S RIGHT? What should I eat?!
Here’s the truth, babe...ready?
I’m feeling super called to write about this.
What I’ve been eating has been changing majorly in the last few weeks - and it feels totally natural.
Soooooo, about 5-6 years ago, I decided to try on vegetarianism. It was something I’d thought about here and there, and one day (sort of out of nowhere) I decided I’d commit to it indefinitely...
People have lots of objections towards the idea of abandoning food rules. It’s hard for most people, especially the experienced dieter, food restrictor, or binge eater. The #1 grievance I hear is this:
“But...but...what about HEALTH?!”
Ah, health, yes. The thing we’re all so very deeply concerned about recently. After all, healthy is the new skinny, right?
Very few people in my life know about my history with chronic pain, for a few reasons. Partly because I dealt with it for a long time from a very young age and therefore was very used to it, and partly because I hated the response I would get from almost everyone. The confusion, the disbelief, and more than anything - pity...
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I used to avoid my own emotions and thoughts like the plague. I would do this by binge eating. Any time that I felt a bad feeling coming on, I would shove it down with food. The worse my emotions felt, the more intense and shameful my binge eating became.
Diet culture is exhausting.
Look at the cover of any women’s magazine. Really – ANY women’s magazine. I guarantee that you’ll find something along the lines of…
“Lose the last 10 pounds!”
“Flatten your tummy in just 2 weeks!”
“Tricks to make your legs look longer”
…I’m cringing just writing them. How stressful is it to always be bombarded by messages in the media that we need to change the way we look?