The other week, I went with a friend to a Japanese bath house. If you’ve never been to one before, it looks a lot like a spa, with massage rooms and soft music and lavender scented everything. But the main space is the communal bath area.
Disliking your body is exhausting. Spending time pinching and wincing at your muffin top, disciplined calculating of calories in versus calories out, mapping the perfect workout, and using the mental energy it takes to stop at every mirror and do a body check to confirm whether or not you’re allowed to like yourself that day… It’s draining just writing about it.
If you’re in the diet-binge cycle, you’ve got trigger foods.
You know what I mean… the one (or two, or fifty) foods that just make you feel totally cray-cray. The ones that you sweaaarrrr are calling your name from the kitchen cabinets. The betcha-can’t-have-just-one foods. The ones that you feel so crazy about that you eat them specifically just for binges.
This blog post is partially recycled from a previous mini-course that I ran earlier this year called “Embrace Your Bod”. One focus of that program was how to transform negative body talk.
I wanted to bring this back around because SO many women are struggling with speaking kindly to their body, especially at the beginning of the intuitive eating journey.
I’m gonna get extra real with you today.
I recently read this article by Mel Wells, fellow diet-ditcher and body love advocate, titled “How to Stop Hating Every Photo of Yourself”. Mel bravely put 6 seemingly ‘perfect’ photos of herself on her blog and dissected them- telling us how her ‘perfectly’ slim body and flawless makeup didn’t accurately reflect what was going on inside her mind and life.
This article was raw. And it hit home for me.
You’ve been searching for solutions to end your binge eating.
Looking for the thing that’ll make it stop for good.
You’re tired of spending every other night in the kitchen, standing amongst candy wrappers, empty jars of peanut butter scraped to the bottom, and the leftovers you swore you’d save for tomorrow’s lunch, wondering “How the hell can I keep doing this?”
Sugar is the latest evil in the nutrition world.
I say “latest” because I do believe, like all nutrition facts, that the sugar-free craze will eventually blow over. I do not doubt that sugar wreaks havoc on our systems when consumed in excess- though the point of “excess” is totally different for each person.
There’s a lot of information out there on nutrition. Endless amounts. Some say meat is toxic and unnecessary, others say that red meat is nutritious. Gluten is either poison or harmless. Eating fruit raises your blood sugar too much and makes fat burning impossible, but it’s also packed with vital bio-nutrients.
WHO’S RIGHT? What should I eat?!
Here’s the truth, babe...ready?
I’m feeling super called to write about this.
What I’ve been eating has been changing majorly in the last few weeks - and it feels totally natural.
Soooooo, about 5-6 years ago, I decided to try on vegetarianism. It was something I’d thought about here and there, and one day (sort of out of nowhere) I decided I’d commit to it indefinitely...
Ever found yourself craving food when you weren’t hungry? You decide to have just a bite of some of those homemade brownies in your kitchen that you haven’t allowed yourself to touch. It’s just one bite, no big deal, right? But then one bite becomes five, and then you’re covering the brownies in nutella, and then going through your cabinets and fridge...
People have lots of objections towards the idea of abandoning food rules. It’s hard for most people, especially the experienced dieter, food restrictor, or binge eater. The #1 grievance I hear is this:
“But...but...what about HEALTH?!”
Ah, health, yes. The thing we’re all so very deeply concerned about recently. After all, healthy is the new skinny, right?
So much of recovering from disordered eating habits (like emotional eating, food restriction, chronic dieting, exercise addiction, etc.) has to do with the eating itself. For instance, I had to re-learn how to listen to my body for hunger cues, eating when I was hungry and stopping once I was full...
Let’s talk about dieting, shall we?
You’ve already heard me rant about how diet culture is everywhere, and how we are being trapped, as a society (and especially as women), to believe that there is something wrong with our bodies and that they need to be changed; our bodies are problems that need to be fixed...
Food restriction. It’s something that so many women struggle with, and yet very few people talk about it – probably because there is so much shame around this behavior that we all try to pass it off as “healthy” or “clean” eating.
“I don’t do carbs. Sugar pretty much causes cancer, anyway.”
“I’m vegan now. I don’t need any of that fatty stuff.”...