The other week, I went with a friend to a Japanese bath house. If you’ve never been to one before, it looks a lot like a spa, with massage rooms and soft music and lavender scented everything. But the main space is the communal bath area.
My morning routine used to go a little something like this: I’d wake up, saunter over to the mirror and immediately lift up my shirt to begin my “morning ab check”. I’d look for signs of progress or regression in my quest to become the fit, healthy girl that I was posing to the outside world so well.
Let’s talk about weight.
Ya know, that number that indicates your gravitational push on the mass of the earth. The one that so many women spend their lives trying to change, only to be disappointed to find that no matter how minimal their impact on the mass of the earth, their lives remain the same. The same issues in their lives still exist, because becoming smaller never made anyone happier on the inside.
I recently came back from an amazing 10-day trip in Israel. Israel is my other home, so there is a lot of sentimental value there in everything I do, but one thing that connects me to the country the most is the food.
No more “lose the last 5 pounds”
No more “finally get in shape”
No more “cut out sugar… for real this time”
This topic has been showing up for me in my life, and in the lives of those I love, repeatedly the past few weeks.
What does this mean?
How do we embody it?
How do we act on it with conviction?
There’s a lot of confusion out there about what intuitive eating is and isn’t. If you’re in the process (or wanting to start the process) of learning to eat intuitively, there are a few things you neeeeeed to understand about Intuitive Eating as a concept.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently.
For years now, I’ve been well aware of the tense reality that most women live in when it comes to how we’ve been trained to feel about our bodies.
We’re taught that we are alive in order to be beautiful
That our appearance is the most valuable asset we own
Disliking your body is exhausting. Spending time pinching and wincing at your muffin top, disciplined calculating of calories in versus calories out, mapping the perfect workout, and using the mental energy it takes to stop at every mirror and do a body check to confirm whether or not you’re allowed to like yourself that day… It’s draining just writing about it.
If you’re in the diet-binge cycle, you’ve got trigger foods.
You know what I mean… the one (or two, or fifty) foods that just make you feel totally cray-cray. The ones that you sweaaarrrr are calling your name from the kitchen cabinets. The betcha-can’t-have-just-one foods. The ones that you feel so crazy about that you eat them specifically just for binges.
This blog post is partially recycled from a previous mini-course that I ran earlier this year called “Embrace Your Bod”. One focus of that program was how to transform negative body talk.
I wanted to bring this back around because SO many women are struggling with speaking kindly to their body, especially at the beginning of the intuitive eating journey.
“How the hell do I stop binge eating?!”is a veryyyy common question that I hear from ladies all the time.
Let’s be forward: binge eating sucks. It is difficult and frustrating and painful and feels hopeless. I know this because I struggled with it deeply for years. What started as...
Do you feel like you're overly focused on weight loss?
This is the #1 most common thing I hear from the women that I speak with. They're on board with the idea of eating intuitively, they want to stop criticizing their bodies....but they just can't let go of the desire to lose or maintain a certain weight.
A lot of the women that I talk to tell me that they feel totally out of control around food (or fear becoming out of control around food). Oh man, have I been there.
I used to feel serious panic around food at basically all times.
"I can't go to that party. I know there will be food everywhere. What if I overeat on chips and brownies? And in front of everyone there?!"
Let's talk about willpower.
This is a biiiiigggg topic in the food & fitness world.
"Eat before you go out to dinner so you won't be tempted to eat french fries!"
"Your body is a reflection of your lifestyle. Make a good impression."
I’m gonna get extra real with you today.
I recently read this article by Mel Wells, fellow diet-ditcher and body love advocate, titled “How to Stop Hating Every Photo of Yourself”. Mel bravely put 6 seemingly ‘perfect’ photos of herself on her blog and dissected them- telling us how her ‘perfectly’ slim body and flawless makeup didn’t accurately reflect what was going on inside her mind and life.
This article was raw. And it hit home for me.
You’ve been searching for solutions to end your binge eating.
Looking for the thing that’ll make it stop for good.
You’re tired of spending every other night in the kitchen, standing amongst candy wrappers, empty jars of peanut butter scraped to the bottom, and the leftovers you swore you’d save for tomorrow’s lunch, wondering “How the hell can I keep doing this?”
Sugar is the latest evil in the nutrition world.
I say “latest” because I do believe, like all nutrition facts, that the sugar-free craze will eventually blow over. I do not doubt that sugar wreaks havoc on our systems when consumed in excess- though the point of “excess” is totally different for each person.
There’s a lot of information out there on nutrition. Endless amounts. Some say meat is toxic and unnecessary, others say that red meat is nutritious. Gluten is either poison or harmless. Eating fruit raises your blood sugar too much and makes fat burning impossible, but it’s also packed with vital bio-nutrients.
WHO’S RIGHT? What should I eat?!
Here’s the truth, babe...ready?
We often try to take on life’s biggest challenges by ourselves.
We try to tough it out alone, keep things under the radar, and sweep our shit under the rug before anyone notices that it’s come up.
I’m feeling super called to write about this.
What I’ve been eating has been changing majorly in the last few weeks - and it feels totally natural.
Soooooo, about 5-6 years ago, I decided to try on vegetarianism. It was something I’d thought about here and there, and one day (sort of out of nowhere) I decided I’d commit to it indefinitely...
Ever found yourself craving food when you weren’t hungry? You decide to have just a bite of some of those homemade brownies in your kitchen that you haven’t allowed yourself to touch. It’s just one bite, no big deal, right? But then one bite becomes five, and then you’re covering the brownies in nutella, and then going through your cabinets and fridge...
People have lots of objections towards the idea of abandoning food rules. It’s hard for most people, especially the experienced dieter, food restrictor, or binge eater. The #1 grievance I hear is this:
“But...but...what about HEALTH?!”
Ah, health, yes. The thing we’re all so very deeply concerned about recently. After all, healthy is the new skinny, right?
Today’s short-n-sweet post is brought to you by my cell phone.
Food is no longer just food, is it?
Food is calories, fat grams, sugar grams, complete proteins or protein combinations, seasonal or off-season, paleo-friendly, clean, dirty…
You get it.
I was there for a lonnnggg time. Hell, I got to the point where I was trying to be so perfect with food that I couldn’t even guiltlessly eat a banana...
Very few people in my life know about my history with chronic pain, for a few reasons. Partly because I dealt with it for a long time from a very young age and therefore was very used to it, and partly because I hated the response I would get from almost everyone. The confusion, the disbelief, and more than anything - pity...
So much of recovering from disordered eating habits (like emotional eating, food restriction, chronic dieting, exercise addiction, etc.) has to do with the eating itself. For instance, I had to re-learn how to listen to my body for hunger cues, eating when I was hungry and stopping once I was full...
Let’s talk about dieting, shall we?
You’ve already heard me rant about how diet culture is everywhere, and how we are being trapped, as a society (and especially as women), to believe that there is something wrong with our bodies and that they need to be changed; our bodies are problems that need to be fixed...
“Suck in your stomach, ladies!”
I remember hearing my female friends say this while we were taking photos together and it always bothered me. I used to think they were crazy to think that they needed to look skinnier for a picture, or that they could possibly impress someone by having a flatter stomach…who cares?
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I used to avoid my own emotions and thoughts like the plague. I would do this by binge eating. Any time that I felt a bad feeling coming on, I would shove it down with food. The worse my emotions felt, the more intense and shameful my binge eating became.